I often get stuck in the laundry list of things I have to do. I sit down to get organized so I can get clear on what I need to do, come up with this insanely overwhelming list (of course they are all items that really do need to get done) and then just get frozen because I tell myself I don’t even know where to start. Which then plays into my bad case of Mañana Syndrome: the ultimate form of procrastination; the ability to put off until tomorrow what could get done today. So you can imagine with these two perfectly engineered and very well practiced programs, I wouldn’t create any movement in my life towards the positive, however would constantly be creating evidence that I’m not good enough and nothing works out for me. And thus begins my journey of transformation…
At some point, I recognized that my life wasn’t moving in the direction I wanted…shit, let’s be honest…my life wasn’t moving. I was very depressed and felt very alone after suffering a tremendous amount of loss and was really feeling sorry for myself. I decided that I was going to put my big girl panties on, pull up my boots and start taking steps towards creating my magnificent life. And holy crap, it wasn’t that easy…
I’m the kind of person that wants insta-results, you know, if I do this now, I should see a result in 5 minutes. And when that didn’t happen, even one solid week after I had intentionally executed a plan, I felt defeated and gave up. Never mind that I wasn’t really working that hard and that I was lying to myself about how busy I was, I still allowed this pattern to take me down. This cycle of feeling motivated, excited and creative turning into self-deprecation was my life for almost two years. It was an awful space to be in; I describe it as being STUCK.
And what I realize now looking back, is that I chose to be in that state because I didn’t think I knew how to change my thinking to actually create a different outcome, but the reality of it is that I wasn’t willing to create the shift because I was comfortable being that person. Our thoughts and beliefs about ourselves inform everything about how we show up, what we do and how we do it. These programs, stories, triggers, beliefs are the foundation of our erector set; what we learn to believe about ourselves and the world as children is what we build our adult life on.
I don’t want to make this complicated because it’s not. I don’t want to give you the false sense that you have to struggle for years into order affect change in your life – I’m pretty sure that you’ve probably already struggled enough anyway. So here it is, 5 things you can do everyday to help build your self-esteem and help create a different result tomorrow. Now, this is a daily practice, and you might consider some of these items silly, however DO THEM ANYWAY! You are working to create new habits to honor yourself and overcome that stinkin’ thinkin’ that happens inside your head. It is the little wins everyday that create big results.
I’ve attached a list of 100 things you can choose from. I want you to select 5, only 5, things that you are willing to commit to doing every single day for the next 21 days. I’m also going to attach a spreadsheet that you can use to track your results – put a check mark or a gold star in the box once you’ve completed the task. You can check in every evening to make sure you did your 5 items that day and feel really good about yourself for getting it done. And, if you find that at the end of the day you still haven’t completed them, YOU STILL HAVE TIME TO GET THEM DONE!!! Little wins everyday add up to HUGE SUCCESS! Just because you didn’t get it done the way you thought it should look, meaning if you didn’t do your 5 items in the morning, it doesn’t take away from you getting them done in the evening. We’re looking for forward movement and creating new habits and this will take repetition – so be patient and compassionate with yourself as you process through this. You are negotiating new territory with yourself and you definitely have a way of talking yourself out of making things work for you, right, so don’t listen to that voice!!!
Tomorrow I’ve got a great post to get you excited about the future so that you’re more compelled to do these simple tasks everyday. However, you must first create your list…so get to it!! Don’t put this off until tomorrow or even another hour. Just sit, right now, and get it done!